A Guide to Dirty Talk!
November 2, 2015
Are you interested in becoming a sensual, naughty lover who can arouse a man in seconds with just a couple of kinky words? Good for you! Dirty talk is a fantastic way to wake up your lover’s sexy imagination and to enhance sexual pleasure before and during sex.
Even though there should be nothing difficult about it, as it’s just a way of expressing the feelings and desires we have at that moment, dirty talk can be quite tricky for beginners. However, if you take into consideration the following tips, your dirty performance will be fantastic.
“I Love It When You Talk Dirty to Me!”
So, you are planning to set your dirty imagination free while having sex with your partner…That’s fabulous but…does he know about that? Don’t get me wrong, you can test him, while having sex, with being just a little bit dirty, in order to see if he’s into it…But be careful with that!
I thought I’d surprise my partner with some “dirty but sexy” ( or at least, that is how I saw them) words. I actually did surprise him, and I got a “kind of “ dirty response: “ What the hell????”. That’s when I realised I should have had a casual conversation about it before…just to communicate our boundaries.
If you don’t want to start your dirty talk exploration like I did, with words so “hot” that melted my partner’s penis, I advise you to talk about it!
And take advantage of this discussion to mention what you dislike, as well. Every woman likes being treated like a whore in the bedroom, once in a while, but maybe you don’t like being called “ dirty whore”, so just tell him!
Life Is More Exciting When You Have a Dirty Mind
If you are new to dirty talk, you might find it a little uncomfortable. I did, and probably that’s why my failure was epic ( the only time my partner did the same face was when I told him I spent all our savings on a cruise). But then again I didn’t follow any advice and I had no idea that, if done right, it can be quite natural and sexy.
So, in order to make it less awkward and comfier, just start by talking. Now we are assuming your thoughts are sexy because if they are, your words cannot be different. Unless you try to say something you heard in a movie, like I did…Please don’t!
If you really want your first dirty talk to be a success and make your man’s penis hard as a rock, get comfortable with your kinky thoughts. It’s perfectly fine to have fantasies and do what you want, as well as talking about them!
Open your mind, and accept who you are and what you like and describe the moment: “ You make me so wet”, “ I love the way you feel inside”, “ Your mouth there feels amazing”! You see? None of these sound unnatural and you don’t need to be a porn star to say things like that, as long as you feel them.
I wish I started with these sentences when I talked dirty the first time because this drives a man crazy even if he is not into dirtier talks.
“I Want to Taste and Worship Every Inch of Your Body!“
Besides describing the present moment, you can also bring some compliments into the talk. There is one important rule here: Don’t lie! The compliments have to apply. It doesn’t matter if you say “ You smell incredible” ( if he comes from the gym, he knows you are acting), “ Your penis is so big” ( If you say so it better be, because if not, it will be dead), “You taste so good”…just MEAN IT!
Would you like him to tell you “ Your boobs are so big and beautiful and I want to kiss them all night long” if you are wearing an A cup size bra? Not really… So, don’t lie! It’s a turn off!
“Remember What We Did Last Summer?“
If it’s not the first time you’re having sex, you probably have some kinky memories. So, how about reminding him about that? Just be sure you are able to recreate a sexy memory and to bring him on the same page.
For example, did you ever give him a blowjob while he was driving? He probably enjoys that a lot so start talking about and you’ll notice him smiling and getting hotter.
“Make Me Scream, Handsome!”
Once you are able to talk dirty in a soft manner, you can move to advanced techniques. So, how about telling him what you would like him to do to you? Just don’t say something you don’t actually want…I mean, be real! Say “ I want you to climb me and put your penis in my mouth” if you want him to do that! Because he probably will!
If you tell him “ I want you to take me from behind and have anal sex with me” because you heard guys like it, but you’re not ready…your sexy encounter might end up with screaming and slapping. So, stick to what you like, what you want and everything is going to be perfect!
Also, you can tell him what you are going to do…Letting him imagine what is next is very sexy and doubles the excitement. So, say, “ I am going to give you a blowjob that is going to blow your mind” and after a couple of moments, do it…It doesn’t work if you don’t do what you say!
Are You Ready for Some Hard-Core Dirty Talk?
Many people love hard-core dirty talks, but many don’t find swearing and slang sexy so again, make sure your partner is ready for some vulgarity. Otherwise, there’s a big chance you saying “ Fuck my brains out and then spray your juices all over my big tits” doesn’t have the effect you want and instead of him actually “ fuck your brain” you get the “ What the hell is wrong with you, woman?”.
This is where we go back and remind you about…boundaries! Do you know his? If you don’t, you should definitely find out more about them before you begin swearing in the bedroom!
Say It Right And Back It Up!
Now, besides the words that come out of your mouth, you should work on the manner you say them. For example, even though you’re a smart woman with a huge sense of humour…this is not the time to giggle and be funny!
So, breath deeply, soften your voice and speak slowly using a deep tone. You can’t build sexual tension if you’re funny and sweet, can you? Keep looking into his eyes, or try to whisper the words while licking and softly biting his ear…
As mentioned before, when we were talking about the blow job that would blow his mind, besides what you say and how the words come out of your mouth, doing those things is crucial!
Would you like your partner to tell you he can’t wait to give you oral sex and after you get undressed….he just forgets about it and goes straight to his business? Of course not! So, relax, be yourself, begin with “less dirty” words and then move to advanced techniques and MEAN EVERYTHING YOU SAY!
She is most well known for her sex advice pieces, yet also has a major interest in sexual health and other serious issues. However, this is all done with a quirky style that is unmistakably hers.
When she isn't working, Anna is a fitness fanatic, and enjoys going away with her partner for various weekend trips.