It has to be said, most guys want to last longer in bed. Especially on our site, where you get to have sex with beautiful strangers and have no wish to finish early. However, it is often easier said than done.<\/p>\n
A lot of this is down to the fact that, according to David Rowland, a psychology professor at Valparaiso University, premature ejaculation is down to anxiety, not arousal. When you feel yourself rapidly approaching orgasm you start to worry. That worrying then fires up your nervous system in ways that speeds up ejaculation. It is a really bad snowball effect.<\/p>\n
This makes the traditional advice that you ‘think of something unsexy’ to stop yourself having an orgasm ineffective. By doing this you just get even more stressed as you don’t want to orgasm. Instead it is much better to relax. This stops the anxiety, and hopefully then the full orgasm.<\/p>\n
Rowland suggest you try to pick out something specific, like your partner\u2019s lips, her breathing, or the movement of her hips or shoulders. Yes, I did just say pick out something to do with the sexual encounter. And yes, I am also aware this is contrary to most advice you have been given on the subject in the past.<\/p>\n
Occupying your brain with sexual thoughts relaxes you and reduces your anxiety, which will make you last longer. <\/p>\n
Still, there is only so much you can do to stop an oncoming orgasm. The only way to guarantee that you don’t orgasm is to stop having sex. Learn to listen to your body and see the warning signs. Once you do that, tell your partner that you really need some time to relax, and then you can have sex again. It is removing that stimulation that will let you last longer.<\/p>\n
So the moral of the story is to relax. And if you need to stop for a while, just stop. By following those rules, you can either cure your premature ejaculation OR you can last longer, even if you don’t see yourself as having a problem.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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