Anal Play 101: Everything You Need To Know

August 8, 2017

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When it comes to anal play, it is a little like Marmite. People either love it or can’t stand the thought of it. If you are one of the latter then this blog is not for you. If you are the former, however, you are definitely in the right place!

Anal play can be a hell of a lot of fun if you get it right… but there are also a number of pitfalls you could find yourself falling into. So here on the XEscorts blog we have created our ultimate guide, telling you everything you need to know.

Keep it clean

Before you start any play involving the ass, you’ll want to clean up. Take a long and hot shower. You don’t need to buy any fancy equipment, as soap and water should be enough to help you clean your ass out.

Wash the area around your asshole carefully, and then slip a finger inside. Take your time and you’ll find that you are nice and clean, ready for the fun to begin later! Of course, cleaning properly might not be possible, so prepare for the possibility of a little mess with some baby wipes to hand.

You should also make sure the toys you are using are clean. You can buy specialist sex toy cleaning products to help, and you need to ensure they are properly dry before you go sticking them in your ass.


No matter what kind of anal play you are into, you’ll find that fingering is going to be where you start. While you might like the idea of slipping a dildo into your hole, it isn’t going to happen like that. You need to build up to it.

So start slowly, using just one finger at a time. You’ll find that, over time, you get used to it and your body stretches. That is when you can add another finger. Lube can help this a lot, but try to avoid numbing lubes. While they can lessen the pain, they can also make it so that you don’t notice if things go too far. Not what you want!

There are a few different positions perfect for fingering. Try lying on your front on the bed with your legs spread, or even getting into doggy style position.


Eager to eat that ass? Rimming is often the next step that many people go to. Contrary to popular believe you do not need to stick your tongue right into their ass. The clue is in the name – rimming. You should be focusing on the rim.

Concentrate on licking all around their hole to begin with. This will really turn them on and tease them. Once you have teased them enough, then you can go to the rim.

Slow licks helps. Some people find that it works better to make their tongue flat and cover the entire rim in one swift lick. Others prefer to point their tongue and really tease their hole. You’ll have to work out the technique that works best for you.

Anal sex toys

Once you have worked your way up through fingers it might be time to try a sex toy for your anal play. However, there are a few things that you should know about these toys first.

To begin with, start small. Anal beads are perfect for this, as they increase in size slowly so that you can feel more and more filled in your ass. Then you can move onto things like butt plugs and dildos.

However, a word of warning. You should only be putting things in your ass that have a tapered end. You wouldn’t believe the amount of people who turn up to A&E with a sex toy stuck in their ass because they ignored this rule! Safety first!

Your top anal play tips

Safety and communication are two of the most important things that you should know about anal play. Make sure you use toys suitable for the task, and if you feel at all uncomfortable, talk to your partner about it.

Having an open and honest discussion about it will make sure you are on the same page and can make your sex session even more exciting! So what are you waiting for?

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