Couples Encouraged to Share Porn
January 23, 2014
We are often told that pornography promotes acts and ideas that are destructive to monogamous relationships and our general state of being. However, a recent study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy has suggested that porn has a place both in society and our bedroom. The study concludes that sharing pornography with your partner can lead to a happier relationship and healthier sex life.
The study asked 340 women to answer an online questionnaire regarding theirs and partner’s porn habits. The findings suggest that those who had partners who were honest about their pornography use scored higher on measures of relationship satisfaction. They also reported an overall reduced level of distress with their partner’ viewing of pornography in comparison with those whose partners were deceitful about the topic. Furthermore, the study found that 45% of couples watch porn together. Those who watched pornography with their partners also showed less unhappiness with their relationship than those who did not report mutual use.
Communicating about sex is a major component to a great relationship and if you can work a mutual interest for porn into your sex life, you will soon notice the benefits. Watching porn together will allow you to learn more about what your partner does and does not enjoy, and is sure to add spice things up too. Watching porn with your partner could be used as a way of hinting what you like – let your partner speak up and tell you what she wants to watch too!
It’s a Shared Experience
Couples who share a hobby are investing in the longevity of their relationship. This works with sexual experiences too; porn can help foster and develop an emotional and sexual intimacy. We are not saying that you can’t go solo, but occasionally including your partner in your porn consumption could lead to a whole new world of fun.
You Can Learn More About Her Fantasies
Fantasy is part of a healthy sex life, and porn adds to the variety of sexy scenarios in our heads. Some people find it difficult to open up and share their sexual fantasies with their partner. Other’s may not be aware of what turns them on, or may struggle to find what makes them hot under the collar. The internet has provided us with a smorgasbord of clips which depict various positions, locations, toys and sexual acts. Take the time to search online for video clips which show your (and her) inner desires being acted out. If you can’t seem to find the words to tell your partner what turns you on, a video clip may say it all.
Explore a Different Kind of Foreplay
Our lives are increasingly becoming more hectic, but this shouldn’t affect the fun we have with our partner. McGill University recently published a paper which showed that both men and women display signs of arousal within 30 seconds of watching porn. Men reach maximum arousal in around 11 minutes, while women take 12 minutes. If time is of the essence, or you have young children/flatmates who are likely to stumble in at some point – using porn is not only breaking the monotony of regular foreplay but could speed up your foreplay and inject some excitement into your sex life.
It Can Reduce the Impulse to Cheat
If you’re sexually satisfied by your partner, you are unlikely to look for gratification elsewhere. Watching porn is not a form of cheating; it simply confirms that we as humans enjoy variety. Allowing your partner to watch an amateur or professional in cyberspace will not wreck your relationship – in fact it is likely to boost it. However, forbidding your partner is likely to cause strain and lead her to look elsewhere. Watching porn together allows you both to open up about your habits, instead of hiding them. There’s no need to clear you browsing history anymore!
You Shouldn’t Just be Attracted to One Person
Touching on the above point; we are all prone to feeling insecure and jealous of others – but we need to accept that we can be turned on by other people. Watching porn together allows you to see your partner’s arousal at the image of another man, and vice-versa. The arousal is simply a biological response to a stimulus and there is simply no need to feel threatened by them. Watching porn together could reduce any anxiety or worry you have about your partner straying and lead to a stronger, healthier relationship.
If you and your partner haven’t included pornography in your sexual repertoire, now is the perfect time to give it a go. One of the best parts about sex is exploring new avenues. For those who are unsure how to broach the subject of porn or are looking for recommendations or advice, a local escort is always available. These ladies are friendly, professional and more than happy to share their experiences with you.
Remember, those who play together, stay together.
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