Cuckold | How Popular And Taboo Is It?
September 16, 2019
The sex world has boomed in recent years, as it begins to embrace all kinds of kinks and fetishes that were once kept hidden under the woodwork. One of these is cuckold, or cuckolding, which has seen a surge in the number of couples trying it out lately.
There’s lots of fun to be had with this particular fetish, but some guys really don’t like talking about it. To find out why, here’s the lowdown on what cuckolding is, and how you can use it to spice up your sex life.
What is Cuckold? What Does It Mean?
Pleasure has always been difficult to define. What makes one person tick might repulse one person, and vice versa. These kinks are what makes sex so great, and cuckolding is no exception. In the distant past, being a cuckold meant that your wife had cheated on you with another man. It’s a buzzword in Victorian literature, but it has come to mean something very different today.
Taking some inspiration from the original term, these days cuckolding means when you get pleasure out of watching your partner have sex with, flirt with, or have a relationship with someone else. Like most fetishes, it’s difficult to explain, but many people look at it in the same way voyeurism works. As one of the oldest kinks in the book, voyeurism is when you get pleasure out of watching other people having sex.
With cuckolding, you just add in your partner, and it’s essentially the same thing. In both scenarios, the cuckold is removed from the situation entirely, either sitting on the edge and watching, or being actively ignored by their partner and the other guy. In any case, they might want to get off to the unfolding scene, or store the visual image as stimulation for later.
The Stigma Behind Cuckold
Like a lot of fetishes, cuckolding encounters stigma on a daily basis. Unfortunately, lots of people seem to think that just because someone else’s kink isn’t the same as theirs, then it’s taboo and should be shamed.
Much of the stigma, in this case, stems from the fact that nobody fully understands cuckolding. Many people seem to think the traditional, centuries-old definition still stands today. What they don’t seem to know is that in modern cuckolding, the man has consented to his partner having sex with someone else, whereas the original term refers to a man being cheated on.
Even with fetishes becoming more accepted in today’s world, the stigma means that guys rarely want to talk about it, even if they like it. Those who aren’t into it perceive it to be a threat to their masculinity, and their ability to pleasure their partner. Guys who participate regularly will know that’s not true.
In some cases, it might not even be a man that their partner is engaging with, but a woman, making it a whole new ballgame. Not to mention the fact there are lots of benefits to cuckolding, which people are only just beginning to clock on to, as shown in a recent study. The same study also shed some light on how many people want to try it out. With 58% of men fantasising about cuckolding, it’s a wonder this stigma actually exists.
Its growing popularity
Now, you might be confused as to why cuckolding is so popular, but like it or not, it’s growing in popularity. In fact, a study carried out by PornHub recently showed that searches for ‘cuckhold’ had gone up by 94%, which is a huge increase on previous years.
But just why is it so popular? Apparently, science has one of the answers, attributing it to an evolutionary theory. Yet, experts also argue that adultery being a sin makes the taboo-like nature of cuckolding more of a turn on for everyone involved. For some people, watching their partner be desired by another guy makes their partner seem even more attractive to them, which could help them spice up a slow sex life.
For others, it’s all about the humiliation side of it. Their relationship might be perfectly healthy, but they have a fetish that needs to be satisfied, and cuckolding is one of the best ways to do it. Watching their partner be taken by another mine while they sit helpless on the side lines is definitely a turn on for these men, but others simply enjoy watching their partner revel in pleasure from a different angle.
Sound fun? Here’s how you can give it a go
If you know it’s time to embrace your kink, then you should jump right into it. Finding someone to have sex with your partner is the trickiest part; choosing a friend might damage your friendship, and random strangers might not be into it. Instead, consider hiring escorts from a service provider like XEscorts.
Escort services have evolved in the last few years to meet the needs of single clients and couples, and give you a non-pressured environment to get started in. If you choose the right escort, you might even find you become regulars, but they can also offer some important advice about cuckolding. One thing you must make sure of before you start is that you’re in a healthy place with your partner.
Sometimes, fantasy and reality don’t match up, so it’s best to give it a go when you’re sure it won’t have long term, negative impacts on your relationship, but positive ones. If you get it right, and have the perfect escort service to help, then you’ll be enjoying a new steamy sex life in no time.