Dirty Talk Phrases: What To Say To Turn Them On
January 18, 2019
The first time a partner tried to initiate dirty talk with me, I clammed up. It was sexy as hell to hear them whispering these words to me, but I had no idea what to say back. I was clueless and felt so self-conscious that I said I wasn’t into it. Now I know that dirty talk can be amazing when you know what you’re doing.
So what if you don’t know what you’re doing? What if you have absolutely no idea what you are supposed to say? It can be a hell of a challenge, because you feel as though you’re leaping without a net and you don’t want to mess it up.
Don’t worry, because I’ve got you covered. Below you’ll find a number of dirty talk phrases to help you ease into it and turn them on with minimal effort. You’re welcome!
“Tell me what you want”
Not all dirty talk has to have you doing the talking. As long as you are active in the conversation in some way, you’re on to a winner! It’s a dialogue, so even just prompting your partner can be the best dirty talk out there.
One of my favourite dirty talk phrases when I’m first getting to know a partner better is “tell me what you want”. You can add “to me” or “me to do to you” onto the end to make it a little more specific, depending on the circumstances.
It works for two main reasons. One, it makes it abundantly clear to them that you actually want to hear this. You are asking for their input and you are waiting to hear it. Two, it can really help if they are unsure. It gives them an in to the conversation and helps them figure out what to say. Plus, it’s really hot to hear.
“I love” and “I want”
Sometimes we just need a little help getting started. If we want our partner to do something specific to us, it can be difficult to figure out how to hint at it. The solution is to not hint. Be direct and to the point about what you want.
So how do you do that? Simple. You tell them, starting your sentence with “I love” or “I want”. You then have free reign to go whichever way you want. “I love it when you slowly tease my tits until I beg you for more”. “I want to feel your teeth grazing my thighs”.
As you can see, you don’t have to be graphic. You can be as vulgar or vanilla as you like. The choice is yours. It makes it so much easier to be specific, and it works well. Your partner will be more likely to follow your direction if you are telling them how much you love it.
“I was thinking about the last time”
You might find that there are moments when you can’t think of some hot and spontaneous thing to talk about. Dirty talk phrases can only really go so far. They can get you started, but what if you don’t know where to go from there?
A good rule of thumb is to rely on your memories, rather than creating a new fantasy. This is why the phrase “I was thinking about the last time” is useful. It starts you off and then you can fill in the gap with a real memory of the last time you had sex together.
To some it can feel like cheating, but it works phenomenally well. You feel like you’re on safer ground, but it’s great for your partner too. They’ll get a very vivid idea in your head of what you are talking about which will turn them on. You can even discuss what you might do differently if you got the chance to do it all over again!
Your favourite dirty talk phrases
People hear “dirty talk” and either go “hell yes” or “no, it’s too vulgar”. But it doesn’t have to be. As you’ll have seen from the dirty talk phrases above, you can be as graphic as you want. It’s all down to you and what your partner wants. You adjust it as you see fit!
Have you got a few favourite dirty talk phrases of your own that you’d like to share with us? If so, leave a comment in the box below. Tell us your naughty secrets.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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