How Does Edging Actually Work?
November 9, 2017
There are many different techniques you can try if you have trouble lasting long enough in bed. Delaying your ejaculation enough to have a great time with your partner is a struggle, and so it can take some time to figure out the right technique for you. Edging is a popular option to try.
Many people will experiment with edging in order to see if they can hold back their orgasm. Not only can it help with premature ejaculation, but it can also give you more intense and powerful orgasms.
So what do you need to know about getting close to the edge? If you are hoping to try it out, you can read below to see how it works and check out our tips.
Find your edge
The most vital part of trying this technique is figuring out where your edge is. The best way to do this is to masturbate. Yes, really. When you jerk off you’ll find that there is a point you’ll pass where, no matter what you do, you’ll come.
This is the point of no return. With edging, you have to find it so that you can stop stimulation before you reach it. By finding your edge, you can stop yourself from coming.
However it can take a while to do so, as it is a fine line. Even continuing on for a second can tip you over the edge. This is why it is best to find your edge when you are alone, so that you can experiment and be certain without the pressure of having your partner with you.
Communicate with your partner
Once you have found your edge and recognise when you are getting close to it, you should be sure to talk to your partner about it. Make it clear when you are close so that they can delay your ejaculation.
It might be that they recognise the signs that you are close to coming. You might get more vocal and move around more, but not everyone reacts in such a noticeable way during the act. This is why you should talk to your partner about it. They’ll then be able to back off and give you the break you need.
Take a break
So, you’ve found your edge and you’ve told your partner when you are close to coming. What you need to do is take a break from all stimulation.
Often this is the best way for you to delay your ejaculation. A break is just what you need. Some will try to continue and just go slowly, but often this doesn’t make the difference.
The best technique to try is to just stop the stimulation completely. Taking a break will do you the world of good, as you’ll back away from the brink of orgasm. You can then return to your activities later and be content that your orgasm won’t come quite as quickly as you thought it would.
Swap your routine
Not content to simply stop all stimulation? Instead, you can switch up your routine. With edging, instead of stopping completely, you can change your focus to something else.
For example, you might want to make it all about your partner. Found that fucking them in missionary position is getting you a bit too close to the edge? Stop, and instead give them a little stimulation instead.
You can go down on them or slowly tease them. This works well because it will not only get them off, but it will also mean that they won’t be as concerned about when you come. This means that you don’t have to worry about coming too early.
The best edging tips
Edging is a lot of fun to try. It can really enhance your orgasm and also help you to delay your orgasm. It might take a bit of time to get the right techniques for you, but once you do you’ll find that it is well worth it.
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