Why Sex In The Bedroom Is Boring
January 28, 2015
When you think of sex, you tend to think of a comfortable bed and sheets thrown all over the place in your excitement to get down to business. Having sex in the bedroom, though, is becoming boring and predictable.
Sex in a bed is very constrained. When you have sex in a bed a lot, you find yourself adopting the same positions and going through the same routine over and over again. In short – your sex becomes limited, boring, and totally predictable, which can leave you feeling unsatisfied.
Why has bedroom sex become so stale, and what can be done to change this?
The same environment
One of the main reasons is that you are in the same, or at least a similar, environment for when you go to sleep. You know what happens – you kiss, go to bed, have sex, and then you both fall asleep. Rinse and repeat the next night.
You need to change how you view your bedroom. Instead of seeing it as the place you catch some shut-eye to prepare for the next day, turn it into somewhere exciting.
You can do this by luring your partner into the bedroom at another time of day. Have candles lit ready to go and, for that extra touch, flower petals can really make the difference. Get your partner to lie on the bed naked and strip off. You can also strip off yourself, and then the fun begins.
Tease them as much as possible, either by lighting planting kissing all over their body or even by giving an erotic massage. This change to the bedroom environment is sure to give you a boost and make things all the more exciting for you both. Hold out from having sex as long as you can, and when you have finished, leave the bedroom.
By taking yourselves out of the bedroom again, you are ensuring you don’t simply view it as a place to lay down your head. Instead, it could become the place to get head.
The same routine
Falling into a sexual rut and routine is a nightmare to get out of. You do the same things over and over again and wonder why it has become boring.
The best solution? Change things up. You could start your foreplay earlier by sending saucy texts to your lover, or by getting yourself in the mood before they arrive.
You could also try some new positions to keep things fresh. Don’t panic – you don’t have to try some of the more outrageous positions from the Kamasutra that are made for the double jointed! Ask your partner if there is a position they have always longed to try and give it a go. If it doesn’t work, then you know for the future not to do it again. If it does, you might have found a new favourite.
The same room
If none of the ideas above help to spice up your sex life in the bedroom you may have to try something else. Instead of turning the bedroom into a sex den, you could have sex anywhere in the house.
The bathroom allows you to share a sensual bubble bath together, where you can slowly massage and pleasure each other in a relaxing atmosphere. If you choose to grab a shower, it can be a great way to get dirty while getting clean, and have some quick, hard sex to get you both to orgasm.
The living room also offers you some great new opportunities, such as having sex on the sofa. Your partner can climb on top and straddle you, and this position not only allows you to squeeze their ass as they bounce, but you can stare at their boobs too!
Even the kitchen is a good place to go – as long as you are careful! A kitchen counter might be the perfect position for stand up sex, and with the fridge so close you could even tease your partner on a hot summer’s day with an ice cube stroked along their body.
Do you find sex in the bedroom boring, or have you found some other ways to spice it up? You can share your ideas by writing your thoughts in the comment box below.