Things We Should Do More During Sex!
April 6, 2017
Everybody has their own rules when it comes to sex. Those involved in BDSM will set ground rules and safe words to ensure that everything goes smoothly. If you are creating a role play, you might set up a few things that hope to do during sex. When it comes to regular sex though, we tend not to think of rules or things that we should be doing. It’s all about the pleasure.
However, there are a number of different things we should all be doing more of during sex if we want to have the best time. Not sure what they are? We’ve got a great list to help you out.
Be more selfish
A lot of people in relationships are having bad sex. It seems that, for those women in a relationship they are more likely to fake it during sex.
For many people it is difficult to cum during sex. Our partners might try our best, but because we fall into a routine it means that sex isn’t as good as it could be. We do the same things over and over again and hope that they work to make us cum.
So instead we need to start being a little more selfish. Sex is about pleasure, so we should start putting our own pleasure first. It is okay to be selfish during sex. This doesn’t mean we completely ignore our partner’s feelings. Instead we think of what we want and tell them this. It will make sex go a lot smoother as your partner will know what you want.
Take a break
You might try a new and fun position which is very kinky. You might try a different sex act you have never tried before and find that it is just what you love. However, sometimes it might get a little too much and you need a break.
It is okay to take a break when you need it during sex. In BDSM people set a safe word so that they can quickly stop the action if they need a break. And you can do the same during sex.
In fact, taking a break is a great idea if you have issues with premature ejaculation. You can stop sex to take a break and come back down from the brink of orgasm. This doesn’t mean that you just sit there twiddling your thumbs. Instead you can use this time to go down on your partner and make them feel great!
When you are ready to continue sex you can do, and taking a break during sex is a great way to try dealing with premature ejaculation. Better known as edging, this is the perfect technique to try without going to extremes such as cock rings or medication.
Admitting when you don’t like something
There will be times when you don’t enjoy some things during sex. Perhaps you’ve tried anal and found that it just wasn’t for you. Maybe you feel that there are some positions that just do not work for you.
If that’s the case then you should tell your partner. Just as you might be honest about the things that you do enjoy and want during sex, you should do the same with the things that you don’t enjoy.
By telling them the things you do not like during sex, you’ll help them to understand what you do like. You don’t have to suffer through the things you don’t like for the sake of it. You can tell them and so they know what not to do in future, and you can work on making sex better.
Use sex toys
Sometimes we like to add sex toys to sex to spice things up. However, for some it seems wrong to do this during sex. They feel as though it might be cheating. But that isn’t the case at all.
Using toys can actually spice things up in a huge way. There are plenty of toys you can use as a couple to spice things up. Why not try a cock ring with a bullet vibrator attached? It’ll make sex even kinkier and give you the chance to try out a toy that isn’t too intimidating.
You can also get kinky with things like nipple clamps and vibrators. It’ll make things exciting for you both and you’ll find that they are great ways to ease into kinkier sex.
Talking more during sex
The biggest thing, however, is that you need to talk more during sex. Don’t just keep it all to yourself. Instead you should be honest about what you want, what you like, and what you dislike in order to have the most fun during sex.
We all have our own commandments when it comes to sex, so why not share yours? Leave a comment in the box below with the things you want to do more in the act and see if others agree.
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