5 Sex Questions You Need To Stop Asking
April 24, 2015
However, when people are talking about sex, there are a few questions that we always seem to hear… and frankly, we’re fed up of hearing them. Here on the Escort England blog we take a look at the five sex questions that you need to stop asking, and answer them once and for all.
How often should I have sex?
For some reason, people imagine that there is some magical number of times that you should have sex with your partner to get to that place where sex is really good. They worry that, if you have sex too much, it can make things boring for you. Too little, and they think that they won’t be any good in bed.
Honestly, there is no perfect number of times you should be having sex, because it all depends on your schedule. If you have odd working hours, you might not find the time to fuck away to your heart’s content. Sometimes you can be lucky if you have sex once a month when your schedules clash.
As for the idea of having sex too much, as long as you are both enjoying it and it isn’t interfering with your work and home life, there is nothing wrong with it. In fact, you should be happy that you have such an active sex life and just enjoy it.
Is planning sex weird?
Okay, so the idea of having to plan sex and set aside a time that you are both free to do it might sound really boring. After all, sex is supposed to be spontaneous and fun, and having to sort out a sex schedule just turns it into a job.
However, it can actually really help you. By setting aside a time you know you are both free, you can be certain that you won’t have any interruptions or get your hopes up, only to find out they have to leave for work right at that moment.
It can also help to build the tension. For example, if you know you are seeing your sexy lady on Friday evening at 8pm and you have work during the week, you’ll find yourself getting excited about it. You’ll count down the hours and the minutes and rush to get there because you are so eager. It can be one of the biggest turn ons going.
Is my fetish or fantasy normal?
Fetishes are thought of as abnormal. They are the things that most other people wouldn’t consider a turn on, and so in a way your fetish isn’t normal.
That said, having a fetish or fantasy is completely normal. It is natural to desire something a little different in the bedroom, and as long as it is legal then there isn’t anything wrong with that.
Try talking to your partner about your deepest desire and see how they feel about it. You might even find yourself a willing partner to try it with, which can make your sex life even better than it was before!
Is there something wrong with me?
This question often pops up in relation to the finer details of sex, though it usually is prefixed by “my girlfriend can’t come” or “I can’t keep it up”. If anything doesn’t go according to plan in the bedroom, you start to wondering if there is something wrong with you.
If you are struggling to get your girlfriend to orgasm, then don’t panic. Unlike porn movies, it can actually take a while for a woman to reach orgasm. We tend to have a lot on our minds, and if we are too busy worrying about how our pussy looks or tastes while you’re licking away at us, we might struggle to relax enough to come for you. Try getting her to relax first and, if that doesn’t help, talk to her. It could be that you just aren’t hitting that vital spot, and she can help you find it.
There are many penis problems you can encounter. Premature ejaculation is a big one, as it can often end the fun too quickly. If this is a problem for you, try using different condoms. Condoms can dull the sensations a little, which can be a great way of lasting that little bit longer. Another common problem is erectile dysfunction. If you find yourself losing your boner, talk to your partner about it. They won’t laugh, and if they do it just proves they aren’t right for you. Try not to worry about it and, if you do lose it, take the time to concentrate on your partner’s pleasure instead. They will definitely appreciate it.
Does size really matter?
This is the most common problem, and one that we see on the Escort England forum A LOT. You men worry a lot about your penis size. Is it too big? Too small? Too fat? Too thin? Too strange looking? Pretty much every query you could have about your knob, you will ask.
STOP. For some people, size does matter, but for most of us, it is if you can use it to make us scream in orgasm. Instead of worrying about your cock, starting thinking about the person you’re fucking. Are they enjoying it as much as you? If not, do something to change that and make them come.
Have you got any sex questions you are fed up of seeing, or have you got some other questions you want answering? You can let us know by leaving a comment in the box below, or you could visit the Escort England forum and join the discussions over there.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.