Do We Really Care About Sex Research?

July 17, 2015

It seems that barely a week goes by without a “new scientific study into sex” making the headlines, telling us things that we, most likely, already know about sex. Is it too much, and do we actually care about sex research?

Here on XEscorts we take a look at whether sex research is that big of a deal and if we actually give a fuck about the results of the studies anymore.

A new study each week

There pretty much seems to be a new study each week, making us feel bad about the amount of sex we are having. Sometimes they tell you that too much sex will make you unhappy, while others suggest that the reason you are so unhappy is that you just aren’t getting enough of it.

When it comes to sex studies, it’s pretty common for it to seem like a “lose/lose” situation. There is no right answer, no perfect number of times each week to have sex, that will make your life better. But that is what we are looking for in these studies. We want answers to all of our sex problems, instead of being shamed for having too much or not enough sex.

In January last year, a study came out to say that sex is better exercise than jogging, and pretty much every person in the world threw their hands in the air to scream “YES!”, but then it seems that the results were exaggerated, and that you’d need to be on top for a long time (at least half an hour) to get any real health benefits from it. That’s not what we want to hear!

It then got a lot worse in February of this year, when we were told that, if you felt you were sexy, you were more likely to be selfish in bed. Why? Because you would be more focused on your own pleasure. I can understand how this might be frustrating for some, but as a woman who struggles to have an orgasm through sex that lasts five minutes, there is nothing wrong with being a little selfish every now and then.

Thankfully, sometimes there are some studies that make us go “yes!”, such as the one in March that suggested that watching porn is actually good for you. Far too often porn is shown as the monster that is giving you problems in bed, when actually it showed that those who watch porn are more likely to have a better sex life. This was great news, but it still didn’t have the impact we hoped it would.


The problem is that there are so many sex studies happening and the results are released so close to one another that we genuinely stop caring. It is a case of “look at all the fucks I don’t give” and we tend to just keep scrolling by when one pops up.

The studies we talked about above are just three of them that we have talked about here on XEscorts. Can you imagine how many more there have been lately that say exactly the same thing?

All of these studies are great, but they aren’t looking at the things we want them to, and that is for a very good reason. It seems that there are “few individuals” who “are willing to put their money behind sex-related research”, which means we are stuck seeing the same results over and over and over again. Which really sucks, and not in the fun way.

They don’t see that this research is actually important and something that should be done. As soon as you put “sex” next to it, people go “oh, really?” and then turn away. As Dr. Miro Gudelsky, a sex therapist, said, “you’re doing actual research… and people just see it as ‘Oh, it’s sex, how titillating’.”

Because of this many researchers are instead turning to crowd-funding, which might be a great idea in theory, but there are so many crowdfunding campaigns and websites around that people just don’t know what there is available to fund in the first place.

Not only that, but there are huge companies turning to crowdfunding in order to get the money they need for their projects. Many films are made through crowd funding, and Pornhub are currently using crowdfunding to get money for their “sexploration” porno, where they will be the first to make a porn movie in space.

With so much out there to fund and learn about, it is no wonder we are all getting so fed up of the different sex studies that hit the front pages of the internet every single week!

What should sex research be about?

Do we really care what the “most dangerous sex position in the world” is, or how many times we should be having sex each week? I think not. Yes, there’s a part of us that is a little curious, but it was hardly unsurprising that a lot of people get injured with the “girl on top” position or that “three times a week” is the optimal number for a happy and healthy sex life.

Really we should be looking at the other things that we REALLY want to know. For example, is it possible for a woman to squirt, or is it just a myth? Are there any studies on this? What about the best methods to help with premature ejaculation? Have any of them been tested properly, or has someone just posted on the internet saying “it works!” when it doesn’t?

What would you like to see in sex studies, or are you completely fed up with them all now? You can let us know what you think by leaving a comment in the box below.

For now, I guess we will just have to continue being bombarded with all of these sex studies that people are doing. I mean, there’s no such thing as too much sex, right?

Lara Mills
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