Do Women Really Scream During Orgasm?
July 29, 2018
Whenever we watch porn, we always hear the woman screaming. So much so in fact that I don’t know about you, but when I watch it I have to turn the volume right down so I don’t get complaints from my neighbours. If that is going to change I am going to have to get paid more and move to a big house in the country, surrounded only by wildlife.
There is even the film ‘When Harry Met Sally’ where she fakes the orgasm in the cafe (you know the scene). Though very funny, it once again gave the impression that women are supposed to scream in bed.
Is it True?
This has led to many men and women thinking that this is what sex is really like. There is a narrative for some that if a woman isn’t screaming, she isn’t enjoying herself. If they are quiet, they are bored. But is this true?
“There isn’t a lot of research in this area,” said Kristen Mark, a sexuality researcher at Indiana University, “but we’re bombarded with images through mainstream media that tell us moaning is associated with orgasm and sexual pleasure. So it would be a fairly wise faking strategy to moan since men already tend to associate moaning with orgasm.”
The nearest we get to finding out why women scream and moan in bed is by looking at a study by Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds in 2011 which was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. In the study, they asked 71 sexually active heterosexual women between the ages of 18 and 48 for details about their noises in bed.
They found that for most, the noise they made had zero to do with an orgasm. In fact 66% said that they moaned to speed up their partner’s climax, and 87% stated that they were vocal during sex to boost his self-esteem.
“While female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalizations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation,” the researchers wrote.
They also did it to relieve their own boredom and any soreness.
It is safe to say that it isn’t actually a good idea for women to fake the orgasm.
“If you’re faking an orgasm, you are signalling to your partner that he is doing everything right, when in fact he isn’t,” sex educator and author Patty Brisben said. “Use moaning as a way of signalling that you are excited and things really are feeling good, not as a way to hide that they aren’t.”
Simply put, instead of faking orgasms to make them feel they are good, give directions to make them actually good. The woman certainly doesn’t benefit from having crap sex. For the guy, he will almost always orgasm so the quality is less important. For a woman to orgasm, she usually has to be stimulated the right way. By rewarding poor performance, the woman deprives herself, and all future women of good sex.
So guys, women don’t usually scream because they are having a great time. They are trying to make you feel good. And girls, stop doing it; no-one is benefiting.
As ever, that advice is for free!