Should We Go Back To The Sex Basics?
January 2, 2018
When it comes to sex, we tend to become a little forgetful. We might ignore the things that we should be doing, such as foreplay, in favour of getting down to business. We want to feel pleasure and we’ll skip ahead to the parts we like, neglecting the sex basics that should be ingrained into us.
Unfortunately, these sex basics can actually add a lot to sex. Without them, sex can become stale and nowhere near as enjoyable. Should we go back to the sex basics?
Falling into a routine
The problem for many of us in the bedroom is that we will fall into a routine. If you have been seeing your partner for a while, it can be very easy to slip into a pattern. You might start kissing, allow your hands to skim over their body, than after five minutes of kissing all over move on to sex.
We don’t need to tell you that this doesn’t make for good sex. In fact, it can make sex very boring. It is predictable and often misses out some of the things that we feel are the most important for us to have during sex.
The temptation can be to add new things to the bedroom in an effort to spice things up. However, this often doesn’t deal with the problem at hand. If you skip over foreplay, you need to learn to focus on foreplay. This is why going back to the sex basics can be so useful to us.
Keep your clothes on
One of the first things that you’ll do with your partner when you plan to have sex is strip out of your clothes. This makes it easier to touch them and turn them on, but it can actually cause problems. Instead of taking your time, you’ll rush to the main event. After all, there are no clothes in the way, so it is easy to go from 0 to sex in no time at all.
If you really want to try to get back to the basics of sex, you should try to keep your clothes on for as long as possible. This doesn’t mean you have to wear clothes throughout… just until you can’t stand it any more.
It is going to really kink things up. You’ll have to think harder about how you are going to touch them and make them feel good. You could go old school and try rubbing against each other through your clothes! You’ll find that you actually take sex a lot slower when you are resisting the urge to undress, and this can make it exciting again for you and your partner.
No penetration sex
When we think about sex we tend to think of penis in vagina. However, there are so many other ways that you can have sex without jumping straight to this act, and by exploring those possibilities you’ll start to get back to the basics of sex.
Don’t just jump to the main event. Instead try having sex without PIV. It is going to be one hell of a challenge for you and your partner, but you’ll discover something amazing. You’ll start to communicate with each other more, because you want to make your partner feel good.
It is going to be such a huge turn on for the two of you to sit down and enjoy sex without you sticking your cock inside of her immediately. Take your time and think about how you can make them come without having full on penetrative sex. You might just surprise yourself with the kinky ideas you can come up with!
Getting back to the sex basics
When it comes to sex basics, we tend to forget about taking things slowly or exploring the ways of having sex without penetration. This means that we can fall into a routine which leaves us feeling bored and frustrated.
There are plenty of ways that you can improve sex, or add things we should do more, but sometimes going back to the basics of sex is all that we need.
What do you think? Is it about time that we went back to the basics of sex that we seem to have forgotten? Or are there other things we should be doing to try and make sex great again? Leave a comment below to tell us your thoughts on this.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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