How To Make Sex More Exciting!

May 6, 2015

Falling into a sex rut is easy, but climbing back out again can be challenging. You might have already exhausted all of your sex techniques and still be feeling like sex just isn’t as exciting as it used to be.

Thankfully, there are some things that you can do to make sex exciting again, and it doesn’t require you to break your back (or the bank) while doing it!

the first time

Okay, so no matter what you try, sex will never be as exciting and interesting as sex for the first time with a new person, but when you’ve found someone you click with, you don’t want to then go off and fuck someone else just to get that feeling back again.

There are some things that you can do to make it as fun as the first time you had sex with this person, and all it requires is a little time and patience from you.

When you’ve fallen into a set rut, you tend to skip all of the stuff that really gets your partner going, like the foreplay, in favour of just having sex. However, when you first get to have sex with someone, you take the time to appreciate their body and learn how they move when you make them come.

Go back to that. Yes, you might just really really want to fuck them and fuck them hard, but by taking things back to basics and taking the time to explore, you might just find that spark that you have been missing out on.

feeling good

Now, this one might sound odd, but if you or your partner aren’t feeling good and sexy about yourselves, then you won’t want to spend as much time having hot sex. Instead, you’ll want to get it over with and go back to sulking that you aren’t as sexy as you were hoping you’d be.

Having sex when you are questioning why the other person would want to fuck you is one of the biggest turn off out there, and can be the reason that the sex you are getting isn’t the sex you actually want.

The solution could be either very simple or very complex. The simple solution is that you need to start hitting the gym harder than you currently are, or at least get yourself a little more active. Exercise releases those happy chemicals in the body that help to make you feel sexy, and the extra energy you get can be put to good use in the bedroom. Go for a jog together and see the difference.

The other solution takes a little longer, and that is actually taking the time to appreciate what it is about your body that your partner finds sexy. It doesn’t have to be your appearance, either. Maybe it is the fact that you won’t finish in the bedroom until you’ve gotten them to orgasm, so appreciate that and you will start to feel better about yourself.

invest in sex

When spicing things up in the bedroom, people will immediately start to think of the best sex toys they can use or the hottest fantasies to try and make things different and more exciting.

If you want to try a fantasy with your partner to make things more exciting, first sit down and discuss it with them in full, whether it is your fantasy or theirs. You want to talk about all of the details, from how it will start, to what you want to happen, and the various props and costumes that are involved.

When you’ve done all that, you can then try it out, but make sure you buy into it. Sure, playing a role in the bedroom can feel cringe-worthy and odd at first, but it is all part of the fun. Your partner might be feeling just as awkward, so put the effort in and you will find it given back to you.
couple in bed

change things up

Sex mostly happens in the bedroom. That is something we pretty much all know and understand. If you have found sex becoming stale, don’t be afraid to try another position in the bedroom or maybe even another room to mix things up a little.

Sex positions don’t have to require a chiropractor afterwards to get you out of them, and in fact the slightest change to your favourite position could make the difference. Love being on top and in control? Put a cushion or pillow under her sexy ass while you fuck her, and get her to put her legs over your shoulders for a truly amazing experience.

Using the other rooms can also be a lot of fun. Ask them to join you in the shower for a little bit of sexy foreplay before the main event, or bend them over the kitchen counter and fuck them from behind to make sure you never think of the kitchen as boring again!

talk about it

One of the most important things you should remember is that sex should be fun. If it isn’t fun anymore, you need to talk to your partner about it. It could be that stress at work is taking all of the excitement out of the bedroom, or that they simply aren’t feeling as sexy as they used to.

By talking about it, you can get to the root of the problem and resolve it. Even if you can’t figure out the cause of it, you can still try new things in the bedroom and ask them how it felt for them.

What is your favourite thing to try when sex gets stale? For me, I enjoy nothing more than surprising the guy I’m dating with a blowjob when he’s catching up on work. It is the ultimate distraction, and him trying to concentrate while I’m sucking him is a huge turn on for us both.

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Lara Mills
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