Multiple Orgasms: How To Make Them Happen
February 19, 2019
You’ve probably heard people talk about multiple orgasms. They are seen as some mythical state of being where you can enjoy orgasm after orgasm. It leaves you writhing in pleasure, trapped in a state of ecstasy until the stimulation ends. Except it is no myth, and you can have them, regardless of gender.
That’s right, multiple orgasms are possible for men too! It might be more of a challenge to get there, but it can still happen. Eager to give your partner multiples or experience them for yourself? You’re in the right place, so keep reading.
What are multiple orgasms?
I can’t tell you the amount of times someone has said to me “multiple orgasms are bullshit”. They don’t believe that they exist, usually because they have never encountered them. Well, as someone who has had them, I’m here to tell you that they are very much real. And yes, they are amazing.
The International Society for Sexual Medicine does a pretty good job of explaining what they are. They tell us that it is “when a person climaxes more than once during a period of sexual activity“. To me, this suggests that there can be a brief break in between them, as long as the sexual activity continues.
Now for the numbers. While the site tells us that “most women have the capacity to have multiple orgasms”, but then they go on to sat that “only about 15% actually do”. They also don’t talk about multiples for men, which is a shame because it is possible for men to have them!
Relaxation is key
This probably sounds like a ridiculous piece of advice to some of you, but relaxation is the most important part of achieving orgasm… as well as getting multiples. Yes, your body tenses up during orgasm. The difference is that it is easier to get there if your body is properly relaxed and warmed up.
Taking a long and hot bath can help. Massages are a good idea too, especially if you or your partner feel particularly tense. Simply enjoying the stimulation is something that a lot of people say. It tends to happen more during oral sex, especially if they are totally relaxed.
If you or your partner feels at all under pressure to orgasm, it is less likely to happen. Many women report that it can take anywhere between ten minutes and half an hour to get there, so patience and endurance are key. If your partner is relaxed, it’ll be so much easier!
A combination of stimulation
The key to reaching multiple orgasms is often that you need a combination of stimulation in order to get there. In my person experience, I’ve needed clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Combining the two in the right way over a long period of time is usually the best way to make me come and come again.
For the pussy, this does usually mean g-spot and clit at the same time. This is easy to provide during oral, as your fingers can use the ‘come hither’ motion on their g-spot, while your tongue works their clit. Some might be too sensitive to continue with clitoral stimulation after one orgasm, so continue to stroke their g-spot gently until they feel ready to continue.
The cock, on the other hand, needs something different. Enjoying multiple involves getting hands-on with your prostate. If you aren’t comfortable trying this with your partner, you can try it solo. Then you can experiment with a partner, as the Lovehoney video suggests below.
Have you experienced multiples?
I have experience with multiple orgasms, but they don’t happen all the time. When they do happen, it tends to be when stimulation has been slow in order to really build that pleasure. Afterwards I can feel too sensitive to touch, and sometimes even moving can be difficult.
The first time it happened I was overwhelmed. It felt amazing, but took me completely by surprise. Probably because my partner hadn’t been pushing me to come. They just gently stroked me until it happened. But that’s just my experience.
What about you? Have you ever had them, or have you successfully given them to someone else? Tell me everything in the comments below! If you’ve got some tips you think can help others, please share them.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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