The Facts About Sex, Ageing, and Mature Sex
January 6, 2019
There are certain aspects of growing older that really suck. The fact that I have to pay my own bills and can’t just spend all of my money on clothes, wine, and chocolate is one of those things. For others, it is sex. Some people hold the belief that mature sex just doesn’t happen… and that when it does it is just disappointing.
That isn’t the case. Mature sex can be incredible and it happens far more than people realise. Curious to know just how much? Here are some of the facts about mature sex to keep you informed.
A closer look at the facts
Back in 2017, the University of Michigan conducted a poll. They called it the National Poll on Healthy Aging. They wanted to look back at previous statistics on mature sex, as well as confirm whether those findings were still true today.
The participants were men and women aged between 65 and 80. When asked about sex, 76% agree it was important for any romantic relationship. That’s a high number, and about right for how most people feel about the subject of sex.
Then we look at how many are still at it. 40% of those surveyed said that they were still having sex. That number rose to 545 for those in romantic relationships. While men said that they were more interested in it, it was the women saying that they were still sexually satisfied. Impressive statistics!
Our bodies change over time
The difference between sex when you’re younger and sex when you’re more mature is your age. That might seem like the obvious thing to say, but our bodies are ageing. We often forget about this, but it can actually change your enjoyment of sex. We tend to already know the problems men might face, while the problems of women can be more of a mystery.
For men, erectile dysfunction is the main problem they might face. It can feel embarrassing, because their desire for sex often doesn’t change. They can’t keep it up as easily, or when they do, it doesn’t last as long as they could like.
Women tend to face more problems. Menopause can change our sex drive, and while some are fortunate enough to find no difference, others struggle with it. The vagina can also shorten and narrow, while the walls become thinner and stiffer. Our bodies may not release as much lubrication, which can make sex painful and uncomfortable.
Improving mature sex
Thankfully, there are plenty of different things you can do to improve your sex life as you age. The problems of men can be solved in a number of different ways. Some immediately reach for the Viagra to try and make their cock stand to attention, but you should speak to your doctor first. Yes, it can be difficult to talk to your doctor about it, but they’ll make sure you are on the right dosage!
You might find that a cock ring helps in the mean time. It restricts the blood flowing from your cock, helping you stay harder for longer. Make sure you use it properly by checking out our guide.
Vaginal dryness because of the lack of lubrication can ruin the fun. This is why it is essential to use lube. In my opinion you should always have lube to hand anyway, because it makes sex more enjoyable. If you struggle with wetness, it is even more important to have it. It ensures that you have no problems with sex or masturbation. What’s even better is that there are plenty of different varieties out there, so you have tons of options.
Making time for sex
The reason that so many of us struggle to enjoy sex as we get older is because we just don’t have the time for it. I’m in my late twenties and it is so difficult to have sex because of how busy my life is. This is why it is important to make time for sex.
Yes, scheduling sex might feel like it is ruining the spontaneity of it, but instead you’ll get to enjoy the anticipation of it. You’ll know that you are going to have sex, which can be a hell of a lot more thrilling than anything else! You can even tease your partner with a few sexts, telling them all of the things you want to do with them.
My question for you is… is mature sex better? What makes it better? Let me know what you think by voting in the poll. Got something else to say? Try leaving a comment in the box below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.