The Worst Advice About Sex I’ve Ever Received!
December 31, 2018
Sometimes we feel that our knowledge on certain subjects can be improved. We want to be the very best, like no-one ever was. We might be tempted to look online for tips and tricks to use, or we might ask people we know. This is how the worst advice about sex is spread.
We live in a world where we tend to believe everything we read online and the things we’re told by friends. It’s not good, especially when it could lead to us following terrible sex tips. Here is the worst advice I’ve ever received about sex so that you can avoid it in the future.
“Sex isn’t a big deal”
When I lost my virginity, I was older than a lot of my peers had been. They hadn’t waited as long as I had, because to me, sex was a big deal. It still is a big deal. However, I’ve been told time and time again that it’s just sex and that it isn’t a big deal.
Some people genuinely don’t see it as a big deal. They think that we need to stop taking it so seriously and just have fun with it. One of my friends even suggested that I should just open my legs to anyone just to get experience.
I don’t just sleep around. Currently I have a few fuck buddies, but this isn’t something I take lightly. We experiment a lot, and I enjoy every single time I have sex with them. I take it seriously because sex is still a serious subject to me. That doesn’t mean that I can’t have fun with it!
“Men don’t like it when you’re too wet”
It doesn’t take much to get me wet. Some passionate kissing or even the right kind of flirting can make me weak at the knees. A bit of time with foreplay and I’m good to go. And yet there are a shocking number of articles online insisting that there is such a thing as being too wet.
The idea behind being “too” wet is that it is a turn off for men. For a start, I’m not straight. I sleep with men, women, and non-binary people. So how these “men” think about it doesn’t bother me. Plus, why is my being turned on a turn off?
Surely it is a good thing to be wet? It makes sliding your cock or fingers into that tight pussy easier, and you get to taste their sweet juices with your tongue. Personally, I’d always rather my partners were “too” wet instead of not being turned on enough.
“Give some subtle hints”
I don’t know about you, but I’m one of those people who really doesn’t get subtle hints. I’m oblivious to so many things, so subtle flirting and hints don’t work for me. If someone is interested in me or if they want to try something new, hints don’t cut it.
However, some people insist that hinting gets you what you want. In my experience, it doesn’t with me. I have no idea what someone wants unless they say it directly to me. But this isn’t the only reason you should be straight forward about what you want.
Being honest and open about it is the best way to make your feelings clear. It gives you and your partner the chance to talk about the things that you want to try. You can sit down and have a really detailed discussion. It makes sure that no-one misunderstands anything and that it is definitely what you want.
“If you can’t come, just fake it”
Back when I was still very sexually naïve, I believed that orgasms were an essential part of sex. If I hadn’t had an orgasm by the time my partner had, then sex was over and I was never going to get one. If I didn’t have one, it’d also hurt their feelings.
So rather than being honest and helping them get me off, I chose to just fake it instead. I got very good at faking it to the point where my partners were convinced they knew the perfect way to get me off. My number of actual orgasms went way down, while the number of times I faked it went up.
Someone tried to tell me that faking it was what you had to do if you didn’t come. I know better than that now, but in my youth I didn’t. It was the worst advice I ever received, because I spent a lot of time faking orgasms. Now I won’t fake it, even if my partner is desperate for me to come. Orgasms aren’t essential for me to enjoy sex, but I’m lucky. My partners always like to try and get me off, even if they have reached orgasm themselves.
The worst advice about sex
I have received a lot of terrible sex tips in my life. Amazingly, most of them came about after I started writing about sex for a living. It’s funny how that works, isn’t it? But I’ve included the worst advice above so that you can learn from my mistakes.
Got something you want to share? Tell me about the worst advice you’ve ever received in the comments below. Have you fallen for any of them?
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.