How To Give Amazing Oral Sex!
April 14, 2016
Oral sex isn’t rocket science. It might seem it, but this is because every woman is different. Each pussy reacts in a different way to each lick, stroke, and touch. That can make finding out what works for her incredibly difficult, but with time, patience, and the use of some great tips, you’ll soon be on your way to giving her an amazing oral sex orgasm.
If you are feeling a little uncertain of where to start with your amazing oral sex journey, look no further. Here on the XEscorts blog we have some great tips to make sure you lick her right, and have great advise to make sure you don’t get too tired too quickly and end up leaving her disappointed.
It’s a marathon, not a sprint
Men seem to get to orgasm a lot quicker than women. Yes, porn might show things a little differently, but we all know the truth. Men seem to get excited and blow their load a lot sooner than women, meaning that oral sex on a woman takes longer.
The problem is that a lot of people will put so much effort and energy into those first few minutes of oral sex, only to wear themselves out and struggle to continue. This isn’t another film in the Fast and Furious series. You really can take your time with it, and a good way to remind yourself is to think of oral sex differently: it is a marathon, not a sprint.
The key is to take your time and go slowly. Not only will this mean that you have more energy to go for longer, but it also means that the slow, steady build up of tension will get her to orgasm a lot quicker. Result!
Learn to relax
I cannot tell you the amount of times I have read a sex story, only to find that the oral sex described in the story isn’t anything like the oral sex that we women really want to have. We want to have mind-blowing, amazing oral sex… not the stuff that happens in a lot of stories.
Often in stories, there is a lot of tension. Now, sexual tension is good, but if you go down on a woman and stiffen up your tongue, this isn’t good. For a start, when people do this they try to stick the tongue into the woman’s pussy, which honestly, doesn’t do anything. It just feels uncomfortable because you can’t get it deep enough to hit our g-spot.
If this isn’t enough of a reason to convince you to relax your tongue, think about it. By stiffening your tongue, you are going to get tired very quickly. It is a lot of work, and you might be down there for ten minutes or more to try and get her to cum. Relaxing your tongue means you can go for longer without any pain, so try to relax.
Repetition is actually good
Trying new things in the bedroom is good… most of the time. It can add a little bit of spice to things. However, when it comes to oral sex, you are best sticking with what you know works for your partner.
If they like you to run your tongue slowly in circles around their clit while gently thrusting your fingers inside of them, do it. If they enjoy you sucking their clit and fucking them hard with your fingers, do it. Whatever you choose to do, keep doing it.
Far too often, people get down there and decide to try out all of the amazing oral sex tips they have ever heard at the same time. One minute they will be licking, the next sucking, and then they might even try blowing. This will leave her incredibly frustrated, because you aren’t giving her the kind of stimulation she needs. Stick with one thing and see how it works. If she isn’t responding, try something new.
Moans are a good sign
Here’s a tip that a lot of people, for some reason, choose to ignore. If your partner starts moaning and groaning while you are going down on her, keep doing what you are doing. Don’t change a thing. It will sound like we are stating the obvious, but the moaning means it is working.
If you decide to change things up when she starts to get vocal, she might actually lose her orgasm. Yes, it is possible, and yes, it is frustrating. So, once she starts to get louder, do not change a single thing. Keep the same speed, the same pressure, the same everything.
Of course, there are some exceptions to this rule. When she starts to get vocal, she might start telling you things. She might say “harder” or “faster”. If she does tell you to change things, take her lead on it. Give her what she wants and you will be rewarded with her pussy clamping down on your fingers as she screams your name.
Amazing oral sex experiences
One of the best ways to find out about the things that work for your partner in the bedroom is to talk to them. Sit down and ask about what they enjoy the most in oral sex, and they will, mostly likely, give you a straight answer. If they don’t, you can always experiment and see what makes them tick.
On the other hand, you might not enjoy oral sex. You might feel like it is too much work for too little in return, but you aren’t alone. Last year we looked at the worst oral sex excuses. Spotted one that you use a lot? Maybe it is time to change things.
Even if you aren’t a big fan of giving oral sex, it is still good to know how to do it. You’ll leave your partner feeling incredibly satisfied and happy, and when you have licked her to orgasm, she is sure to return the favour. Put that tongue to work!
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